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How to throw a Pre-Ball party



Lock up your daughters...

Lock up your daughters…

After being accused of only thinking about myself and my “stupid 50th birthday party” by my equally self-involved 17 year old, we drew the short straw and agreed to host a Pre Ball, a social hot potato amongst parents of teens.As it was deemed a great success by both parents and teens I thought I would share my top tips with you should you find yourself with the hot potato:

1 Forget trying to get a copy of the invitation that she sent out to 20 friends without your knowledge requesting they “BYO” alcohol. Damage done.
2 Ignore all protestations and abuse from your teen (e.g. You are an overprotective stress maniac etc) and demand the email addresses of all the parents of those attending. You can dangle the threat of cancellation to speed this part of the process up.
3 Say “you weren’t born yesterday” and make further demands for the addresses of the parents of the boys as well. Apply consistent pressure, and ignore any accusations of being a Fascist.
4 Write your own invitation to parents including an excerpt from the law regarding teens and drinking, pointing out that you will not be supplying teens with alcohol and they need to attend and be responsible for any drinking their teen might in fact do. CC the School Principal who would have already sent you a stern warning about the perils of general Pre ball and after ball culture.
5 Once again, resist biting back at any parental abuse of the “OMG you are ruining my life”/”what is your problem?” variety.
6 Enjoy 100% positive, warm and supportive RSVP responses from ALL the parents who wholeheartedly agree and can’t wait to come.
7 Take advantage of her open Facebook when she goes to the loo and read amusing Facebook conversation your teen daughter has with friend about how “Stressed out” and “what a pain the arse” you are.
8 Allow teen daughter herself to organize a Fun Bus including collecting the cash from all before the event. (“Its not a Fun Bus Mum for gods sake, stop calling it that, it’s a party bus..” Go figure.)
9 Pick up a photographic backdrop from photography teacher (at the most inconvenient time when its pouring with rain) that your teen daughter has arranged for pre ball photos
10 Assign husband a few tasks in which he can’t go off brief on– party ice, charge the camera. i.e light duties….
11 Refuse to buy false eyelashes for daughter just out of spite and make her buy them out of her own money since you have forked out for everything else.
12 Make your teen tidy the house the night before including cleaning the loos
13 Open a really good bottle of champagne with husband for your own personal use half an hour beforehand, just because you need it.
14 Watch in awe when around 30 of the most beautiful girls and handsome boys you have ever seen flood into your house closely followed by their fabulous parents carrying plates of food, decent wine and a wonderful attitude.
15 Immerse yourself in a true community event, enjoy the full on photo session in the rumpus room, revel in the laughter as parents swap stories and enjoy socializing with the teens all whom have recently emerged from that really irritating mid teen phase into the slightly more palatable, hugely entertaining late teen stage.
16 Feel relieved when one smart Mum (officially a “cool Mum”) does a quick amnesty around the teens and comes back with a few hipflasks of vodka some had planned to smuggle to the ball.
17 Despite being slightly suspicious of what they might be hiding between the folds of their ballgowns or inner linings of the their suit…enjoy a warm hug from your teen as she thanks you for a brilliant Pre ball and tells you she loves you before you bid a Party Bus full of teens farewell as they excitedly head to the ball,
18 Feel thankful that parents clean up as they go so there is not much mess at all.
19 Wake up at 4.30 am automatically and after a few text messages find that there were no dramas and all are home safe at various sleepovers, having had a brilliant time.
20 Go back to sleep, safe in the knowledge that you did all you could to keep everything safe and above board, didn’t compromise your values or the law, but allowed them to enjoy themselves …and it all turned out for the best.

They say it takes a village to raise a child. I think it takes a community to keep teens safe and on track.

I am hugely grateful that the parents of our kids’ friends share our values and feel so warmly about all the teens in the extended group. Am just reveling in a moment of suburban bliss.

hmm, god only knows what really went on. I guess "what goes on tour stays on tour"

hmm, god only knows what really went on. I guess “what goes on tour stays on tour”

more beauties and beaus

more beauties and beaus


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7 Responses to “How to throw a Pre-Ball party”

  1. Clare
    May 26, 2013 at 5:24 pm #

    I have saved this one for the future reference when Flynn gets there.
    What fabulous photos and great advice. I will chill the champagne for the future

  2. Kirsty
    May 27, 2013 at 6:15 pm #

    All I can say is that Pippi looks completely stunning (hot hot hot!) and you guys get the ‘coolest parents in town’ award! Looks like you’re both fully enjoying and reaping the rewards of all your hard work! Congrats! x

  3. May 26, 2013 at 7:20 pm #

    you made me laugh! definitely will apply in a few years when my kid shave their first ball! Looks like they had an awesome time and they all look gorgeous! Aaaaahhhhh the kids grow so fast!! xxxx

  4. donna corbel
    May 27, 2013 at 11:01 am #

    I had a wee taste last year when Miss T at 15 gained special permission to go with the very debonair Jarrad Thornhill to his sixth form ball. Said ball was a mitigated disaster, thus this year is limited to year 13′s. Tahlia will join him again for this on the 29th of June, oh joy says my purse …
    Anyhoo, her own ball, 11 May, was seriously like organising a wedding… But as per you, she had a “totes amazeballs’ time. Apparently that is what it is all about, THEM HAVING A GREAT TIME . . . I did not gave to the after ball party, but yes, great unified parents, all with same theme of keeping our young n’s safe. Cant wait for the grand kids, our turn to gloat…
    Tee hee, one more year to go… Give me strength ….
    BTW your 50th was totes amazeballs also, thank you so much for fab night xoxo

  5. Jenene
    May 29, 2013 at 1:18 pm #

    love it! Such wonderful and fun advice that I’ll have to remember for when my 3 girls become teens.

  6. louise
    April 15, 2014 at 9:17 am #

    Hey thanks for this as I am hosting one ….do parents bring plate of food ? how is all that done?

    • sandy
      April 15, 2014 at 10:22 pm #

      yes everyone brings a plate. We also got the photography backdrop screen from the Photography Dept at school and did semi professional (i.e. mother with good camera) photos in the rumpus room
      good luck!